Crossdresser or Transgender?
This is for those of you discovering the world of panties, stockings, bras, lacy undergarments and basically enjoying dressing like a girl. Since this question comes up a lot I thought I’d take a moment to put some definition to the terms crossdresser, and transgendered. I’m often asked by someone just entering the realm of panties and lace which type I think they are and although there is no hard and fast rule (there is always the exception to the rule) this is the basic definition of each term.
Crossdresser
A crossdresser can either be male or female. To crossdress is to simply wear the clothing of the opposite sex. Women crossdress all the time, in fact. We love wearing “boyfriend jeans” and men’s dress shirts. Believe it not the term tansvestite also means crossdresser but does NOT mean transgendered. It’s a common mistake that people make to assume that transvestite and transgender are the same thing. They are not the same at all. Both transvestites and crossdressers are not necessarily gay, although they can be. Some crossdressers and transvestites just enjoy putting on the clothing of the opposite sex and acting out the fantasy. But the basic underlying thing for a crossdresser is that a crossdresser doesn’t wish to be that gender, they just enjoy indulging in pretending to be another gender.
Transgender
Being transgendered has a lot less to do with anything sexual and a lot more to do with how this person feels or how they identify. We’ve all seen and read and watched the wonderful and brave transformation of Bruce Jenner into Caitlyn Jenner. Caitlyn Jenner is transgendered. But many people are transgendered and never undergo any type of surgery. These people live their lives as the gender they feel they were supposed to be and that can also include non gender or not identifying with either gender. The best way for me to describe this is to simply say that transgender is more about what’s in the mind and less about what genitals you were born with. If you identify as a female and feel like a female, you are transgendered.
You probably noticed I left out sissies. I’ll have to devote an entire post to that because sissies are in a world and class of their own.
For now, enjoy who you are and what you like, and ignore the labels everyone wants to put on people. We are all so much more than labels.
Ta Ta for now!
Tia
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Can you help me in my cross dressing I am afraid to be seen in public wearing a bra under my clothes ? I really would like to wear a bra and panties fill time all of the time.
Of course, Emily! Either I or any of the ladies at http://www.femphone.com can help you. That’s what we are here for!
I’m a crossdresser. I love wearing women’s clothes, bras,panties,slips, leggings,yoga pants, dresses, along with lipstick,perfume,makeup. Women’s clothes are sexier then guy clothes. MsFiona emailed me on different shades of lipsticks for me to try & buy. As well as Her, Ms Cindy, & Ms Gia taking me shopping. They took me to Victoria’s Secret and put blush,perfume with lotion on me then took me in dressing room to try on matching pink bra & panty set along with pumps. Then they took me out of room for everyone to see:(ms Fiona had lipstick for me to try. I couldn’t escape as I was between Ms Cindy & Ms Gia. Ms Fiona applied it on my lips and within minutes I made a mess in my panties.
Another time you did same to me when I told you what’s it like to be a girl and you had me over for dinner. The wine you gave me was strong but tasted good. I woke up feeling different with headache. My body changed as I had soft,smooth petite body with long hair,long white tip nails and c cup breasts. You giggled at me saying my wish came true as I said I was joking but it was no joke.:( you then said if I don’t cum I can go back to being guy I agreed then you put your arms around me and started giving me lipstick kisses, saying if I cum MsCindy/MsGia & Ms Fiona will put permanent make up on me. Within minutes I made a mess in my panties. The door opened and in came the 3 mistresses. My days as guy were over and I’m now the 4 of yours cream puff sissy doll.:(
I adore transformation fantasies! I have enjoyed talking with you over the years and yes, I remember the bargain we made. Once I have you all dressed up and looking so sweet and feminine, I dare you to cum in your panties. If you don’t, I will let you return to being a boy. But, if you do, you have to be a sissy girl forever. We had so much fun, didn’t we?
Yes we did! You are to hot and sexy to say no to. With your soft voice I’m puddy in your hands. I always enjoy calling you and having you have way with me in Corce feminizing me. Did you remember Ms Kate and the ca the 3 of us did together? What other feminization fantasies do you have in mind for me?
My Dear Tia,
Thank you for this post its such a freeing mental feeling after years of agony and frustration to be able to understand and accept that some of us are Transgender and while we can’t all be Caitlyn much of the shame, agony and confusion we have felt seems to evaporate … I know this is what you have been trying to tell us indirectly over the years
Hanna